Court Predictions

Well, was I right about anything?  Let's see:

CC - well, it turns out that she didn't even have court that day.  Why not?  Because it was actually held the WEEK before.  Right.  And no one knew or told us.  Her caseworker didn't even know about it.  How do they hold court without the caseworker?  How do they make decisions about a child and no one who actually deals with her knows about any of it?  Sigh.

Baby N - as of right now they are court ordered to look into family for him.  He has 2 older siblings that have been adopted by a non-family member and one older brother (by one year, almost exactly) who lives with his paternal grandparents.  They have custody of that child.  Now, why did they not come forward for Baby N?  Because they only found out about his existence last Friday! The bio parents don't want Baby N to go with the paternal grandparents because they do not get along.  Something about how the grandparents do not approve of the bio parents lifestyle.  Shocking.  The next court date for Baby N is in October, but that's mostly for the bio dad because he never showed up to court and doesn't  have representation yet.  Also, the parents have missed 3 visits so far - including one the day after they ran into Andrea at Walmart.

BJ - oh boy, his case is a doozy.  For real.  As of right now, both parents are in jail for very different reasons.  So, there go any visits.  Plus, the judge gave permission for him to move to his aunts house as soon as she gets approval.  Her state has been out to her house and how they have 60 days to file all paperwork and give approval.  BJ's caseworker is going to try and light a fire under them so he can be moved before Thanksgiving.  Or at least by then - over a school break, they hope.  that is good - as of now his parents are in NO shape to care for him and the best thing for him is to be with his aunt, who he loves.  He will be an only child and I think he will LOVE the state he will be moving to.

As for my predictions, I am giving myself a 75%.  Not totally wrong, but not totally right.  I think I am a 'C' student when it comes to predicting the actions of the state.

Yes!

Court

All three kids have 3 different court dates this week.  Yikes!  Here is a run-down of what I think will happen - and maybe next week I will write about how totally wrong I was.

CC: she is going to talk to the judge about her case.  As of right now court has ordered her worker to find her an adoptive home.  She has said that she does not want to be adopted but she wants to age out of the system.  I understand her feelings - she's been in some bad situations, both in foster care & her one adoptive placement - but I also think it's a hard decision to make at 13.  She still has a while to go in the system!  She said she was nervous about the judge, but I explained that he will listen to her and take her feelings into consideration (I hope!) but will end up deciding what he feels is best for her at her age.  She is not in trouble, so the judge isn't angry or upset with her (that's how she feels). I don't want to her freak if the judge decides they have to continue searching for a new adoptive home for her.  She knows we are here for her as long as she needs in this process.

BJ: I know that for this case they are trying to lower the dad's visits from 3 hours a week to 1 because he is a constant no show.  I think that will happen.  I also know that they are going to recommend that BJ is moved to his aunt's house as soon as she gets approved and not wait until the next court date.  I hope that happens for him - I think it's the best plan for him to be successful.  I think his dad will flip out at some point during the proceedings (he seems to think he's going to get him back, even though he's done NOTHING in his plan). Plus, he said he would fight the move to the aunt's house - since she is in another state - and he'll "never get to see him." Dude, you don't see him now, you never come to visits now - what's the difference? Also, how about fighting to get him back instead of fighting any progress for your son to move forward? I am not sure about his mom, she was making progress, but now there are rumors that all may not be going as smoothly as we thought.  So, all I hope for this case is that they can move forward with the aunt soon.  I think though, they may end up giving the mom more time & longer visits and stretch this out for months.  Again.

Baby N: I think for his case they are just going to give the parents their plan and set up visits.  I don't think much will happen here.  Although there is the SLIGHT chance that he will go home.

Check back next week and see if I am psychic! Or just crazy.